Weddings aren’t always expensive just for the Bride and Groom. The wedding party can have all sorts of expenses. We asked the question; “As a member of the wedding party, do you feel obligated to give gifts at every event?” Most brides agreed that it isn’t about the gifts; it’s about the celebration. Some suggested the gift of sentiment with homemade goods or little gifts that show appreciation for being a part of their special day. The best gifts can often be priceless…..here are some of our favorite responses:
“I would think so. I haven’t been in a wedding party, so I really couldn’t say. I do feel though that even just something small, a token of your support for that special occasion, even though you are a part of it, would make the day even better.” -Christina B.
“I wouldn’t expect a gift at every event from my bridal party. It can get expensive and they are friends/family. I would never want someone to feel obligated. It’s a celebration, not about the gifts.” -Amanda W.
“It depends. I mean obviously give SOMETHING, but if the wedding is already costing an arm and a leg to be in then not something for every little thing. I didn’t hold it against any of my bridal party members for not giving gifts. It was more important to me that they were there for us and a part of our special day. They already spent enough to travel, get hair and makeup, get their clothing, etc. Why burden them with more money out of their pockets?” -Jessica W.
“I would/have given gifts for all occasions. There are only a few moments in life that we can celebrate these special occasions together. So I like to give the special couple something to commemorate these moments.” -Jennifer M.
“It depends on what your gift is, if it’s a big gift no, but if it’s a small gift, yes.” -Ashley C.
“I think it would be appropriate to give a gift at the shower and wedding. Maybe something off the registry and then something special that I shared with the bride as a sentimental gift…it’s not so much feeling obligated as it is a feeling of wanting to share in the bride and grooms happiness and show my appreciation for choosing me to be apart of the big day.” -Ashley M.
“I wouldn’t expect my bridesmaids to spend money on me for every event. they are already doing me the honor of being in my wedding and that alone is priceless.” -Grace N.
“We haven’t had an engagement or shower as, to us, getting married is not about receiving gifts from others. I would rather all of our guests, including our bridal party, remember our wedding with fondness and happiness, and not as a burden that sent them broke! lol. Our bridal party has paid for their own outfits which i think is a gift in itself.” -Kim T.
“I appreciated the presence of my girls much more than I would have appreciated a present! I love them and enjoy their company way more than I would’ve liked them to buy a present for every occasion along the way.” -Samantha H.